Listening – Not so easy to do when we are angry or upset
One of the hardest things to do when you are upset is listen.
Listen to someone who you are angry at or someone you do not want to speak to
Listening is hard when we are so fixated on what we want to have our voice heard and have a plan of what we want that we cannot hear what the other person is saying
Listening requires us to stop and put our thoughts aside and listen and I mean actively listening to what the other party is saying and give what they are saying thought I know it is hard. You are at the table to make decisions for your agreement you have thoughts on what should be said, you may be angry on what he or she may have done and you are waiting for them to finish so you can speak It’s hard to listen under those circumstances when you are holding onto your thoughts on what you are going to say and nor listening.
So if you are afraid you will loose your train of thought, what you had in mind to propose or why you want to propose this, then maybe think about what you want to say and write it down
If you have your notes, then you don’t have to worry about concentrating on what you are going to say and can reflect and listen to what the other party may be saying. Listening you may find that you agree or that you think about some options to what the other party is saying
